Dear parent of a child who has special needs:
Maybe your child “isn’t like the rest of the other children.” Maybe your child has autism, Down’s syndrome, wears glasses, is missing a limb, has a sensory disorder, eczema, allergies, or any other issue that doesn’t fit the cookie cutter picture of “normal.” If so, I have a few words to share with you:
First of all, I want to remind you that EVERYONE is unique. Not everyone in the world is the same. Even those who fall under the “normal” category have differences. God made us all different with different fingerprints, DNA, thoughts, etc. Different is good.
Second, you have probably heard many theories as to why your child may be struggling with said issue. You may have heard it was a result of taking too much or too little of something during your pregnancy. You may feel a heavy weight of guilt, thinking it was your fault that such a condition arose. I am here to tell you IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! God had a plan for your hold even BEFORE your child was in your womb. “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”
– Jeremiah 1:4-5 (NIV)
Third, doctors or other professionals may have told you your child’s condition is hereditary or genetic. As a result you may place blame on your ancestors or feel bitter toward them. It is not their fault either. Don’t let bitterness and point blaming eat at you.
Fourth- stop labeling your child. Stop referring to your child as “the one with allergies,” or “the one with Down’s” etc. You don’t owe ANYONE any explanation of what your hold is going through. Start referring to your child by his/her God given name and gifts. Stop reclaiming the condition- it only gives Satan happiness that your child is labeled.
Fifth- You may have heard that there is no cure etc. Don’t give up hope. It is possible for your child to be healed. Love him or her for the person he or she currently is- and don’t let the fact there is a condition stop you from enjoying your child. But, remember that there is a God who heals and continue to have faith in His healing. Exodus 15:26- “… I am the LORD who heals you.”
Sixth- Stop watching for other peoples’ reactions in public when they catch a glimpse of your child. It does not matter if jaws drop, if staring happens, if fingers point, if comments are made. You just spend time not worrying about others and focus your energy on enjoying your child.
Seventh- Remember how BLESSED you are. Your child is an extreme blessing to you. Psalm 127:3 says that children are a blessing from God. Focus on your child’s strengths and positives he:she has. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy, and ENJOY this blessing without stressing.
Eighth- Satan smiles and Satan laughs when the symptoms your child has are claimed and talked about over and over. Start talking about God’s promises for your child. Stop talking defeat and start talking LIFE and health. Start seeing your child well by saturating your family’s spirit and mind with the Wors of God. “For we live by faith, not by sight,” 2 Corinthians 5:7. “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen.” Hebrews 11:1.
Ninth, Please remember God is in control. God has reasons. God has timing. God has a will. Keep hoping, believing, and having faith for health- but enjoy and trust that God knows what He is doing in all this.
Lastly, remember that love is great and powerful. Love yourself , your child, God, and especially those who may never understand.
Love, A mom of an overcomer, a mom of a child of God, a mom of a Nazarite, a mom of a blessing, a mom of an every-day MIRaCLe!